I voted like toasty...I'm one of them, I'm engaged.

I think it all depends on the people. I agree that some people shouldnt think about it because they are to immature. But I guess it just depends on the people.

I was 20 and the wife was 19 when we were married. The oldest was engaged while in high school, married after 2 years of tech school (19) , and had twins 2 years after that. ( at least she did it in the right order) That is how we are able to have 5 generations. My mom was young when she had me.

Is it smart, don't know. I would agree with Tracy though, it would be really hard to get back into the dating scene.

I completely agree that it mostly depends on the maturity level of the people involved. I have been with my husband for four and a half years and love him dearly. A lot of real young marriages are really just so they can get out of the house sooner. And you are right, the divorce rate is quite high. But I think alot of that is because we now live in a society where giving up is the "BEST" option even though I don't agree with that. It'* easier to get divorced than to try and work it out (to some people).

I dated my wife for 5 years before I married at age 28. she was age 24. I was in no hurry since I wanted to be absolutly sure, that 20 years down the road I wouldn't be thinking should I, could I, would I, or anything close to that. I did everything I wanted to do before I got married and now knowing her for 27 years, she'* still my best friend. I find that before the age of 20.... again depending on maturity, you just don't have enough time to truly get to know yourself and still do everything you'd want to do before marriage. Some say "well I can do those things with my spouse, it'* just not the same thing. You need to be out on your own for some time before you can spend an eternity with someone else. I just don't see the hurry.

Yes, we live in a disposable society. However, I think even more than working it out, you should marry the right person to begin with.

I know one of my friends is 20, and she got engaged 2 WEEKS after meeting this guy. They are not married yet, but i cant imagine that working out. She uses the engagement as the dating period because she is "bad at dating"

Maymybonnieliveforever - thank you! I completely agree with that method. Smart!

well I know tons of couples that area married and in the next two weeks I'll be going to more weddings with "kids" getting married. But in my hometown, seems like all the girls are trying to have kids and I have no idea why.

As for knowing when the right time is to get married, well Im 25 now and Ive been with my girlfriend for 6 years and been living with her for 2 years. We're both in college and soon to be graduates. Im sure marriage will be in the works soon after graduation but my whole reasoning is that I never wanted either of us to be tied down to someone and not be able to explore certain career options or whatever opportunity came up.. and plus, theres no way i could take care of another woman or a new baby. I can barely take care of myself and theres still a lot of things i would like to do before i have to get serious with life.

I have a friend who'* 22 (she is like my sister) who'* marrying a 19 (soon to be 20) guy.

I don't think it'll last. They just moved in together recently and i don't think they're completely compatible with each other. I worry about my friend because the guy gets a temper easily.

I also notice that with young marriages comes with domestic violence?