I am heart broken...
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That'* actually not what I meant But that too makes sense. You (everyone) have to feel confident, and happy with who you are before you can be happy with someone else.
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Bro!!! you're 24...I'm 24...and single, its no worries, you're a young guy, so much to look forward too...you too young to get down on yourself.
Keep that chin up, max out the Bonneville and you'll be fine.
Still not easy, but you have lots of time
Keep that chin up, max out the Bonneville and you'll be fine.
Still not easy, but you have lots of time
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I have once thought that before ( not to the extend of being married.. but engaged to someone I knew wouldn't work out.. but was too ignorant or in too much denial to admit it ). I too went on a roller coaster ride of feelings, and it seems like you can't stop thinkin of that person.. and the "What If" scenario of things you've done. Just remember that you have 9 years invested into her ( and picture yourself smoking for 9 years.. then all of a sudden went cold turkey ) it becomes a habit of having that someone around all the time. So you have to dig down inside and ask yourself a few questions.. is this the best for her or I? Is this what would make her or I happy? Am I truly in love or just going cronic for the addiction of having her around. I can't tell you whether to strive to work it out, or let it go.. that is up to you ( as again I don't know the story.. and no offence.. even if I ( or we ) did.. we're only gettin only one side of the story, and not hers ( again.. not saying I ( we ) don't trust you.. just stating the obvious ). Have you 2 seeked marriage concilling? I believe that in order for the divorce can be finalize, they would ask you to seek marriage conselling first. Swallow your pride bout seeing a shrink, and listen to what she has to say.. ( whether it upsets you or not.. or if its the truth or not.. since this is her PERSPECTIVE of things that lead to this and try to understand instead of defending ).
If it doesn't apply or work out .. sorry.. YOU WILL GET OVER IT... it'* a matter of time ( and the bitch part is between now and then ).. being young you shouldn't be worried as I too was around your age with my experience, and I stayed single for a great majority of the time afterwards ( and through time began to enjoy the single life and benefits :pimp: ). I dated a lot for short period of times till I met Mufifn ( Tamara ) and I have to now say that I've never been happier considering I've gotten along so well with Muffin and always smiling and laughin ( and she accepts me for my lil quirks and such, even though she may not approve of it ). After 3 years vs. the lil over half year ( 194 days 20 hours 6 minutes as I type this.. hee hee.. I keep track of weird things I know ), I think even though the break up was painful and I don't wish anyone to go through it.. it was the best thing that could've happened . You'll look back onto it one day later on and say.. wow I did that? ( kinda like remembering how you use to do really stupid things when you were younger that you thought was right for that time and mindstate? And now you'll never do it again? Its going to be one of those ).
But whichever way you go from this point on in your life ( whether to walk or stay ).. we'll be hear for you ( as long as you still have your bonnie jokes..
Holy crap I typed a lot but I feel your pain
If it doesn't apply or work out .. sorry.. YOU WILL GET OVER IT... it'* a matter of time ( and the bitch part is between now and then ).. being young you shouldn't be worried as I too was around your age with my experience, and I stayed single for a great majority of the time afterwards ( and through time began to enjoy the single life and benefits :pimp: ). I dated a lot for short period of times till I met Mufifn ( Tamara ) and I have to now say that I've never been happier considering I've gotten along so well with Muffin and always smiling and laughin ( and she accepts me for my lil quirks and such, even though she may not approve of it ). After 3 years vs. the lil over half year ( 194 days 20 hours 6 minutes as I type this.. hee hee.. I keep track of weird things I know ), I think even though the break up was painful and I don't wish anyone to go through it.. it was the best thing that could've happened . You'll look back onto it one day later on and say.. wow I did that? ( kinda like remembering how you use to do really stupid things when you were younger that you thought was right for that time and mindstate? And now you'll never do it again? Its going to be one of those ).
But whichever way you go from this point on in your life ( whether to walk or stay ).. we'll be hear for you ( as long as you still have your bonnie jokes..
Holy crap I typed a lot but I feel your pain
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Originally Posted by Drifter420
I have once thought that before ( not to the extend of being married.. but engaged to someone I knew wouldn't work out.. but was too ignorant or in too much denial to admit it ). I too went on a roller coaster ride of feelings, and it seems like you can't stop thinkin of that person.. and the "What If" scenario of things you've done. Just remember that you have 9 years invested into her ( and picture yourself smoking for 9 years.. then all of a sudden went cold turkey ) it becomes a habit of having that someone around all the time. So you have to dig down inside and ask yourself a few questions.. is this the best for her or I? Is this what would make her or I happy? Am I truly in love or just going cronic for the addiction of having her around. I can't tell you whether to strive to work it out, or let it go.. that is up to you ( as again I don't know the story.. and no offence.. even if I ( or we ) did.. we're only gettin only one side of the story, and not hers ( again.. not saying I ( we ) don't trust you.. just stating the obvious ). Have you 2 seeked marriage concilling? I believe that in order for the divorce can be finalize, they would ask you to seek marriage conselling first. Swallow your pride bout seeing a shrink, and listen to what she has to say.. ( whether it upsets you or not.. or if its the truth or not.. since this is her PERSPECTIVE of things that lead to this and try to understand instead of defending ).
If it doesn't apply or work out .. sorry.. YOU WILL GET OVER IT... it'* a matter of time ( and the bitch part is between now and then ).. being young you shouldn't be worried as I too was around your age with my experience, and I stayed single for a great majority of the time afterwards ( and through time began to enjoy the single life and benefits :pimp: ). I dated a lot for short period of times till I met Mufifn ( Tamara ) and I have to now say that I've never been happier considering I've gotten along so well with Muffin and always smiling and laughin ( and she accepts me for my lil quirks and such, even though she may not approve of it ). After 3 years vs. the lil over half year ( 194 days 20 hours 6 minutes as I type this.. hee hee.. I keep track of weird things I know ), I think even though the break up was painful and I don't wish anyone to go through it.. it was the best thing that could've happened . You'll look back onto it one day later on and say.. wow I did that? ( kinda like remembering how you use to do really stupid things when you were younger that you thought was right for that time and mindstate? And now you'll never do it again? Its going to be one of those ).
But whichever way you go from this point on in your life ( whether to walk or stay ).. we'll be hear for you ( as long as you still have your bonnie jokes..
Holy crap I typed a lot but I feel your pain
If it doesn't apply or work out .. sorry.. YOU WILL GET OVER IT... it'* a matter of time ( and the bitch part is between now and then ).. being young you shouldn't be worried as I too was around your age with my experience, and I stayed single for a great majority of the time afterwards ( and through time began to enjoy the single life and benefits :pimp: ). I dated a lot for short period of times till I met Mufifn ( Tamara ) and I have to now say that I've never been happier considering I've gotten along so well with Muffin and always smiling and laughin ( and she accepts me for my lil quirks and such, even though she may not approve of it ). After 3 years vs. the lil over half year ( 194 days 20 hours 6 minutes as I type this.. hee hee.. I keep track of weird things I know ), I think even though the break up was painful and I don't wish anyone to go through it.. it was the best thing that could've happened . You'll look back onto it one day later on and say.. wow I did that? ( kinda like remembering how you use to do really stupid things when you were younger that you thought was right for that time and mindstate? And now you'll never do it again? Its going to be one of those ).
But whichever way you go from this point on in your life ( whether to walk or stay ).. we'll be hear for you ( as long as you still have your bonnie jokes..
Holy crap I typed a lot but I feel your pain
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Well.. the LD charge would kill the bill.. so you can catch me on msn, yahoo, or one of the awesome chat pages ( the kick *** one for bonnevilleclub? ) hee hee..
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Originally Posted by ssesc93
I hate myself for not doing the little things that she wanted.
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Originally Posted by ratmfan2118
Originally Posted by ssesc93
I hate myself for not doing the little things that she wanted.
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The best gf I ever had I met in a totally unexpected place.
So just when you think it won't get any better IT WILL. It is really tough getting over this kind of thing, Right Tamara, hehe. I told her the same thing many many times that it will take time and things will get better.
I too was shy when trying to meet people, it'* really hard for me not to be ( believe it or not).
First you have to get over her, then meet someone else, other wise you will be with someone and still talk about her and it'* not fair to either of you ( yourself and the new person).
I'm glad to see you are keeping yourself occupied as much as you are, I only wish I was able to do that when I broke up.
Hang in there, we are all here for ya!