I think I'm just going to make this easy and drive it a mile down the road to my buddy who has an 60 gallon compressor and cut it off and start with a new nut

It should be fine on that short drive. It'* not like it can fall off.

So I got the nut off today, and the three holding it in from the back came out with a little leverage but now the bearing won't come off the shaft, tried propane heat for a half hour and the shaft got so hot that the end is now wider than the rest of it...so now it looks like I need to get a new axle but I still can't get this damn bearing off

we tried everything on it, even rented a puller and still didn't help, took a ratcheting strap and hooked it to a hitch and tightened it still nothing

now the car is really stuck beacuse the bearing is half torn apart and we can't put a rim back on it to move it so it is on a jack stand for now

is it possible to pull/push it out with a small hydrolic ram?

Sorry to hear you got all this trouble and the suggestion to use a hydraulic ram seems like a good idea but almost impossible to use in your case.. One member suggested to pull the whole axle out with the bearing attachted but I am not sure if the CV joints will go trought the hole in the control arm but that seems like the only solution in your case. You should be able to get a used shaft so you can install it trough the same control arm, it will just slide in the transmission. Hope it works for you and as you allready found out too much heat is not always the solution. Velo.

Spray some PB blaster on it. If the puller can't move it on it'* own, then apply some pressure with the puller, and then use a screwdriver and a hammer. Put the blade of the screwdriver on the joint and start whacking it. It will move, then get the blade in to the gap and work it out. Spray more PB blaster. It'* a pain, but it will come out. Again, some heat and wax may help.

I believe he is at a point where that just make things worse and he might get hurt and at this time it would be wise to take the hub out with the shaft as The end and CV joint are already damaged too bad. Just going by what he mentioned in his post.